How To Save My Marriage?

Though your partner undoubtedly has flaws, the only person you can control is yourself. Ask yourself: What am I doing to contribute to the problems we face? Is there any way I can minimize the damage being done to my relationship?

Love never fails. But to be in love with one another, you need to appeal to each other's heart. So go on dates, say sweet things, and try to impress each other like you would if you were dating someone. Create new good memories together so you remember why you are together in the first place.

The blame game results in two losers. Even if someone admits blame, the problem remains unresolved. Instead, focus on the real issues and develop a plan with small, realistic steps that you both can work on to make positive changes.

You might be on your last straw, but your partner thinks everything is fine. Or vice versa. So, communicate what your concerns are and what could make you feel better about the situation. It's not fair for either partner to throw in the towel before giving the other partner a fair chance to make things right.

Wouldn't it be silly to plan a picnic on a day with a high probability of rain? Choose the most opportune time to bring up a heavy topic and avoid broaching such topics when your spouse is tired, sick, or involved in another important activity. If you choose the time and your words thoughtfully, you will find less conflict occurs in your conversations.

Most long-term marriages have weather periods where one or both spouses feel that they don't love the other person anymore. Love, however, is a choice. It's not just for the easy times, but the hard ones too. So, dig in your heels, grit your teeth, and work hard to resolve your issues. Be patient. Better times are on the way.