What Is Your Deepest Fear?

Maybe that is obvious to you and maybe it's not. But that's your deepest fear. But the fear of failure has a root. It isn't just that you'll fail, but that someone will notice that you've failed. If you didn't care what others thought, you'd go on like Edison failing and failing until you achieved the impossible. Let go of judgments about yourself and ignore the judgments of others.

This fear is a lot like the Fear of Commitment. But, at the heart of a fear of commitment is the fear of someone actually getting close enough to you to make you feel things you are afraid to feel. If someone loves you enough and touches you deeply, you might break. That's what you're afraid of.

It isn't just that you're afraid of the dark. In fact, you might be perfectly okay with the dark. But you are afraid of some unknown things or lots of unknown things. You might simply be afraid of doing something because you don't know the outcome. Or you're afraid of a particular type of people because you don't know something about them. Or, it could be a classic fear of the unknown and you don't like aliens or travel or weird ideas.

That's right. There are people who fear success and you are one of them. People who fear success are generally afraid of the trappings of success. That if they find success, even more will be expected of them, or that their life will change. They may also be afraid that if they find success more people will pay attention to them.

You do not want to be bothered by obligations of any kind. You may even reject some relationships like friendships because to add another friend to the roster means more obligation. Or maybe you don't want a better job because you'd be obligated to work more or go to events or meetings that you don't want to go to.

Not wanting to be judged is a natural feeling. No one really wants to be judged. But you take it a step further. You fear that a judgment might lead to an overall rejection and that a rejection has an impact on your worth.