How To Approach Women?

Don't hide that you're shy. Don't try to fake confidence - you'll just look douchy. Don't use little girl phrases like 'you're so cute' on a confident woman. Just tell her you didn't want to miss the opportunity to introduce yourself. Continue the conversation in an organic natural way about something relevant to both of you like the weather or the place you're at. Nothing too personal. If she's into you, she'll stick around while it evolves and then you can ask how she wants to keep in touch.

If she makes eye contact and smiles and then looks away and looks back, approach her and just say 'hey'. After she replies, introduce yourself. Don't jump right into asking her out or for her number. Slowly let her warm up to talking to you. If she's into you, she's going keep interacting with you. If not, she'll make an excuse to walk away. If she's still sticking around, ask her if she likes whatever it is she's there to do (like, if you're at a play, ask her what she thinks of it. ).

This one is delicate. Your nature is overwhelming to her. When you approach, face her, but do not block her or close her in. Imagine you're both two squares. Your flat side should be facing her corner. Don't approach from her side or front and especially not the back. Just say hi. Let her draw herself out as she gets comfortable in your presence. Make sure she always has space to walk away. Even if she's attracted to you she will change her mind if she feels trapped or that you're being pushy.

You know that introverts like yourself don't like being overwhelmed or feeling obligated. Wait for just the right moment. Then ask her a question that gives her the upper hand. Like for directions or if she knows who wrote Ivanhoe. Something. Then start talking from there. When you get ready to ask her out, make the event semi-specific but not the date. Like, that you want to know more about whatever you're talking about and maybe you could meet for coffee sometime. Then give her YOUR number.

Tough one. She is likely to think you're over the top. You might want to tone it down a bit. But, do still be yourself. Just don't try as hard with this girl. You've got to show her that you do have a vulnerable side or can be introspective. You probably won't get anywhere as a stranger on the street. If this woman is your type, be in places she might frequent. Be a regular at a coffee shop or bookstore. You're in for the long game. Wait until she's warmed up to you before asking her for a date.

You have to avoid looking like a creep. Your nature is more quiet and slow than hers. If you're slow in approaching, make too much eye contact or not enough, or you speak quietly and with a lot of pauses, she will either find you boring or creepy. Practice by talking to your friends and making the right amount of eye contact. Then go out and approach the girl of your dreams. She may anticipate and be ready for the question. So just go with it and ask her out. Be friendly if she says no.