What Is Your Standard Of Love?

You want it all. You want an attractive partner, both physically speaking and personality-wise. And you want them to be loyal, respectful, loving, caring, kind, funny, smart, generous, appreciative, and trustworthy. You want someone who can hang out with you and your family and friends, but also not put you to sleep when you're alone, one-on-one. Someone who is reliable, and won't do anything to betray your trust or cause you pain of any kind. . . Maybe you need to rethink a few things?

Your love standard is high, but not so high that it's not possible. Ideally, you want someone who is loyal, honest, and loving. Someone who although imperfect, still tries to improve on things, like maybe being less selfish, or less rude. As long as you see the willingness to improve there, you're fine. But really, you need some immediate things like love, affection, and loyalty. Because once a cheater, once a betrayer, always a liar. And you don't stand for that.

You know people mess up all the time, and that it often has nothing to do with what you do or don't do in a relationship. You could be the world's best partner, and it would still not be enough for most people. At the end of the day, you expect there to be grave mistakes and mishaps. But what you also expect is the consistency, and determination in a partner. Enough to get up, dust off, and try again. As long as your partner tries, that's what you care about.

You expect people to mess up, and you expect them to mess up frequently. And furthermore, you don't expect them to ever. . . really change. What you see is what you get. And any self-improvement ideas need to come from themselves, not you. The minute it's the other way around, there's resentment, and you're just not into that. It's too much drama. It's why you don't date anyone you deem problematic from the start.